So this week the along awaited movie 50 Shades of Grey is coming out. I won’t be going to see it. I didn’t read the book. I consciously made the choice to not step into this trap of “mainstream” pornography. Yes porn. Not an “erotic fiction” book but porn. I don’t tell you this to be self-righteous but to ask you to consider these things….
Are you ok with your spouse/significant other watching/reading/looking at porn?
The answer for most of you is a quick No! Why is that? Well, long story short is that porn DESTROYS relationships and marriages. It sets up a point of comparison that cannot be lived up to. It degrades and objectifies women. A stronghold of lust and distrust takes root. And then it grows and spreads like a cancer. Where originally something minor like a lingerie catalog or a book aroused those feelings and desires, slowly that no longer gets the job done. Slowly it takes more and more risqué and dirty and taboo things to cause the same effect. The risk is high for an addiction to set in. I know you probably think I’m nuts so just google “your brain on porn” and see what you learn.
The other piece of this whole 50 Shades frenzy, is that many women, specifically Christian women don’t stop to think about the slow fade that is occurring. To borrow the lyrics from a Casting Crowns song
Be careful little eyes what you see
It’s the second glance that ties your hands as darkness pulls the strings
Be careful little feet where you go
For it’s the little feet behind you that are sure to follow
It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away
It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day
It’s a slow fade, it’s a slow fade
So I ask you, I beg of you, to please stop and consider what you are doing before going to see the movie. Stop and think, “Does this choice bring me closer to Jesus or further from him?” For you nonbelievers out there, stop and think, “Is this movie really worth risking my marriage/relationships/etc?” For all of you out there with children, stop and think, “Would I be ok with my kids seeing or experiencing this?”
Ultimately I pray for you, the reader of this blog, and all of us. I pray that we make the right decision that upholds our faith and value as women. I pray for the ones that do see the movie and read the book. I pray for their eyes and minds and hearts to be guarded so this perversion does not take hold in their lives and cause the destruction and hurt that I know it can. And I pray for us, a society that has faded into grey.
In Christ Jesus’ love.